By Sodwana Bay

It’s easy to understand why the motto “Work hard and be nice to people” is so popular. Not only is it short and memorable, but it reminds us how valuable often overlooked traits like diligence and kindness are in the workplace. With that in mind, I’ve created a detailed guide corporate leaders can follow to become bosses valued and liked by their employees. It’s not always easy — this sort of leadership requires a light touch and the ability to put out fires without burning bridges — but the following eight tips are a good place to start. 1. Don’t try to be the “cool boss.” Appearing authoritative but down-to-earth can be a hard balance to maintain, and so boundaries are critical. While there are any number of ways to distinguish yourself as a leader, symbolic or superficial gestures mean little. Don’t get caught up in dressing more formally, reserving a parking spot or having luxurious lunches catered. Instead, opt for more substantial differentiators such as being the first in and last out and exhibiting relentless enthusiasm. At the same time, resist the urge to relate to your employees by casually dropping in “just to chat” or by asking to join them for lunch. Let these relationships develop naturally and don’t worry about whether you’re seen as a friend or confidant. That’s not your job. 2. Remember your workforce is not your family. You and your staff are teammates, close friends even, but you’re not a family. Every company benefits from a healthy culture, but don’t liken it to the intensity and obligation that comes with the word “family.” This doesn’t mean you can’t have inside jokes, but try not to introduce and enforce too many mottos or die-hard rules. Corporate culture and human capital strategies are vital, and they definitely needed a reboot from their stodgy 1980’s Wall Street roots. Some culture is good and can prevent negative chatter, but too much culture can have the opposite effect. Related: 7 Ways to Determine Who on Your Team Could Speak for the Company 3. Invite and embrace criticism. This can be a more difficult rule to follow for leaders than for the rest of the company. I’ve seen plenty of well-meaning bosses try to implement an environment that welcomes constructive feedback, only to lose focus and snap at the first well-meaning employee who critiques their own performances. Give your team a format for addressing issues they may otherwise be too timid to mention, and show them their honesty and commitment to improving is appreciated by accepting criticism gracefully. 4. Don’t be a target. As a leader, you have the ability to choose your degree of visibility. There’s a happy medium to be struck here: be around just enough to give people tangible things to like about you, but be absent enough that they can’t find anything to dislike. Whenever possible, deliver good news, interesting developments, cool new hires, etc. at company-wide meetings. Try and take a few questions, maybe ones you’ve screened via email first. Carefully regulate your presence, but also pay close attention to the tone of your interactions. Even if you are funny, don’t be tempted to be the funny boss. Remember– if a joke lands, it will probably offend someone, and if it doesn’t land, it will offend everyone. 5. Use competitors as motivators. If you ever sense a rumbling in the halls, a dip in morale or general discontent, diverting attention to an external 3rd party can be a great way to mediate tension. Spend a month talking about a competitor and how each of your employees can enhance your company’s competitive edge by embracing their killer instinct and desire to win. Do you have an upcoming product launch, conference or public appearance? Focus on that external deadline and create a narrative that hones employees’ desire to meet it. This is a sound motivational technique, as teams often perform better when they can rally against an external force. People tend to see their lives in terms of simple plot structures with a cast of heroes and villains; give them the right villains, and you’ll improve your chance of being a hero. Related: 4 Signs of a Terrible, Toxic Boss 6. Give out free perks. Free stuff moves mountains. People love gifts and the people who give them, so take advantage of the opportunity to be a source of joy and generosity. This practice goes beyond handing out company t-shirts and other forgettable swag. Give your employees something they’ll remember. For those of you that already pay for employee meals, snacks, booze, and raffles, you’ll probably have to think outside the box on this one. Even if your employees are spoiled, an unexpected freebie is invaluable for its ability to stimulate psychological attachment and loyalty. When in doubt, who doesn’t love freebie tech gadgets? 7. Ask for small favors. Everyone wants to feel needed. Approach your employees off-the-cuff and ask them to do a quick job that they can easily accomplish but that doesn’t make you appear petty for asking. You can do this with every employee whose job title you actually understand. Jim in IT would be happy to spend 30 minutes looking into the most sophisticated voice-to-type apps for you, and doing so will subtly ingratiate you to him. Be sure to stipulate that your requests shouldn’t take too long. That way, people will be more likely to let you know if the task you assigned was unintentionally difficult. 8. Publically apologize for your mistakes. Fallibility is an important quality, but more important is the emotional currency earned from a public and sincere apology. Apologies are powerful and bely a sense of empathy, virtue and corporate responsibility. Once again, you’ll need a mild touch here. Don’t out yourself by apologizing for a massive, reputation-scarring mistake, but don’t try and apologize for not restocking the snack supply in a timely fashion (you’ll appear ridiculous). Focus on medium size mistakes, and craft your apology accordingly. Originally…


5 ways to be a blessing to your boss

By Sodwana Bay

The Bible tells a story of a young man named Joseph who chose to be a blessing to his boss in ways that are not as common anymore today. Genesis 39:5 tells us, “From that moment on, God blessed the home of the Egyptian – all because of Joseph. The blessing of God spread over everything he owned, at home and in the fields.” When we choose to be a blessing to our employers and superiors, they’re not the only ones who benefit. A boss who is encouraged, motivated and blessed brings blessing to the whole company or office, and the same is true for the exact opposite. When a boss is demotivated, the whole company or office will probably feel the weight of it as well. Being a blessing to your superior is also something that God has instructed us to do in Hebrews 13:17, which says “Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account.” Although this scripture was in the context of spiritual leaders, there’s no reason to believe that it cannot apply to corporate leaders as well. How can you bless your boss? Here are a few examples of ways you can be a blessing to your leaders. Trust your boss It’s common for employees to question the decision of the boss or unwillingly follow with grudging. The best way to battle this mindset is to always trust your boss, knowing that they are doing their best to do what they believe is right for the company. “What if my boss is corrupt and self-centred?” you might ask. That’s when you should trust your bigger Boss and know He put you there for a reason. Encourage your boss Leaders easily get demotivated and tired because of all the weight they carry. A manager or supervisor will often be burdened by making decisions that can spell ruin or glory for the company. Our leaders need our encouragement from anything as simple as a pat on the back or a few words of praise about what they are doing well. Give honor when due In front of his family and friends or in front of your co-workers, it’s good to honour your boss in front of others. The easy thing to do is hide in a corner and talk about all the stupid things you think your boss does, but it’s amazing what honouring a trustworthy boss can do not just to him or her but to the company and for you. Be honest Honesty is scarce from followers nowadays. Business News Daily shares that employees can often lie to their bosses about ideas, other job opportunities and feelings towards management. Being honest to your boss, even if it may mean ruin for them or you (when truth is that it shouldn’t mean that), can be very helpful and most of the time it will be much appreciated. Thank your boss There is power behind the two simple words, “thank you.” It doesn’t cost us anything, and it shows appreciation for what our leaders have done for us, which if you really think about it is much more than what you believe. Our bosses deserve our gratitude and should receive it every so often. Originally posted 2016-02-05 11:16:57.


Protect Your Church in One Simple Step

By Sodwana Bay

challies.com • April 30, 2014 A few days ago I tried to demonstrate how a church self-destructs. There is a sad progression that begins with the people growing weary and ashamed of truth. No longer able or willing to endure sound teaching, they get rid of the truth-tellers and accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions.…

Protect Your Church in One Simple Step was originally published on BIBLE Knowledge


Get through it the right way.

By Sodwana Bay

It so important to understand why God has chosen this path for you, and not too get stuck with the circumstances around you. Like when Peter was called to step out of the boat – true to his character Peter responded to the call. So, with us we also sometime unwilling sign up for life’s challenges; simply by just being willing to live. When God moves – we need to learn how to follow. Although, we do not know where – why and how; we need to comprehend Gods extreme obsession with us. Like a good Father our God will not take us into harm; if He knows we can’t handle it, he won’t take us there. So, if you in it – You will get through it! The Israelite’s had a 40 Day journey from Egypt to paradise which turned into a 40 year roaming nightmare. I don’t think that was Gods intention or dream for his people. The same with us – God only wants the best… We might not understand things now; when we are in the crux of things it’s not so easy to be happy or smile. It sucks! Why do you think God had the Cloud and Fire? Firstly, the Cloud and Fire was there to show His people His physical nearness. These two signs represented God as whole… Secondly, the Fire and Cloud taught them to blindly follow without any questions – no matter what. When the Cloud or Fire moved they had to blindly pack up camp and move. They did not know where to next or for how long. All they knew was – We must Go!   [embedyt] https://www.youtube.com/embed?listType=playlist&list=PLXQ9CQLR4uYtVqU1TnevAGCh2YUtgBnFb&layout=gallery[/embedyt]   It is in these troubled times of uprooting us when our dear Father wants to teach us the most important lesson of all… God is always Good and God will never leave us! He is crazy in love with us… Our God is faithful till the end!!!  


You’re Built for Opposition @ Sodwana Bay

By Sodwana Bay

You’re Built for Opposition The one who conquers, I will grant him to sit with me on my throne—Revelation 3:21 Ever been in the middle of something tough, prayed for rescue, and heard . . . nothing? Ever questioned God, in frustration, “Why won’t you answer?” Could it be that God doesn’t always answer because, sometimes, he wants us to stay right where we are and learn, there, how to fight? Could it be that God sometimes allows trouble and pain to train us, to build our maturity, to make us more reliable conduits of his love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control? We often consider trouble and pain as unnecessary, to be avoided, hindrances to ease and happiness. Might it make more sense to consider trouble and pain as opposition, as a mountaineer views the pitch and the altitude, or as a linebacker views the block and the fake? We aren’t meant to be men who avoid opposition, numb it or deny it. We aren’t meant to run from battles, to hide and to let others fight. We’re built for opposition. Truthfully, we’d probably wither without it. We must see it, though, for what it is: “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places” (Ephesians 6:12). Our struggle is against being lured into selfishness, indifference, impatience, rage, resignation, or sin in the face of problems at work, or in our finances or relationships or families. These are epic struggles—battles worthy of any man. Okay, so what do we do? God doesn’t always take opposition away, brother, because he’s built you to conquer, not to cower. And he’s given you everything you’ll need. Spend time this week reading and meditating upon Ephesians 6:10-17. Write out what the words mean to you, personally, practically.